It’s kinda weird to me that I don’t really know my triggers. That pregnancy announcement? No problem. The squishy baby cheeks sleeping on momma’s shoulder in front of us at church? Pass the tissues. They often hit me when I’m least expecting it. So while back to school time doesn’t bother me in general, sitting behind the schoolbus and watching that mom kiss her third grader goodbye for the day hits me in the feels. No matter where you sit with this back to school time of year, there are some fun things we can do that can help us grapple with the feelings we have.
Summer is officially here, with all it’s A/C blasting, popsicle dripping, vacation planning, sun lotion rubbing, grill cooking, lighting bug catching, and star gazing. As a kid, summer is the land of the fun and the home of the free. As an adult, we find ourselves still mired in work and bills and meds and appointments and what the heck do I make for dinner. Life doesn’t stop for us. Grief doesn’t stop for summer. So when you feel the weight of everything sitting heavy on your chest while the summer sun shines, don’t forget that you can press pause.
Many holidays, I’ve spent the day with my husband and extended family. Often, I end up sitting in an out of the way spot watching mommas run after their kids and often, I’ve set to thinking “Someday that will be me.” It’s so easy to fall into the thought pattern that you aren’t a family unless you have kids or even waiting to embrace your family until you have all the kids you think you should have. Family looks so different it deserves to be celebrated right now!
In June we celebrate Father’s Day so this month, we’re focusing on our guys. Infertility and loss doesn’t just affect women and often, we can get so caught up in the roller coaster that is our own emotions that we forget. Our thrive tip for the month is to check in with your man. So here are a few pointers for how to do that as well as some questions to help you get started.